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Something that has taken me a long time to really understand, to the point that I'm nearly embarrassed by it, is "taking part". You can just show up to things, ask "How can I help?", and generally be included in whatever is happening. I like to believe it's a feature of good Third Spaces. It isn't always true, of course. But in a surprising number of places, if you see a group of people doing something cool, you can join them. "Can I join you?" is a powerful incantation. I implore you to try it.